Goodness, what a tough one

I understand about the lack of jobs thing - my DH would love to move up north as he is a scuba instructor but there's just nothing for me up there, I work in IT. It's all happening in Melbourne... so I get that.

Really tough. I don't have a child with special needs or in therapy so I can't really comment on that, but I have to agree with some of the other comments about would breaking up your family negate the benefits of staying in therapy?

I think you should talk to your therapist/counsellor/case worker/whatever the right person is Melbourne/Sydney are not small places, you might be surprised that you can get yourself sorted. Don't know.

As for the bonds your DS has made, well that's a bit harder... short term pain for long term gain?? Not sure, and sorry if that is insensitive - like I said, I'm not in that situation. He will be making new bonds in 2014 anyway, if you all move.

Don't forget - as important as your son is, your relationship with your husband is also important. If you thought maybe a break would be beneficial for you, then great. But if your relationship is all good then it'll be really hard on both of you, as adults and husband and wife. I understand making sacrifices for your kids, but you need to weigh up the costs. I couldn't do it, I need my husband too much.